Agent: Jesse Silva
Agent Activities: Husband of Life Coach
Location: Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, USA
Where to Find Him: @kaizendone (Twitter)
Author(s): Dr. Brené Brown
Report Published: 15th November 2016
Rising Strong reads like a story being told by someone with whom you are instantly interested in listening to. The subject of the conversation touches each of us in a very personal, yet massively empowering way. If you want to understand how someone can rise in the face of simple fears or quake-sized losses, Rising Strong places the pieces of the process in your hands and then walks you step by step.
Rising Strong follows on from Brené Brown’s previous two books, and while together they might be considered a trilogy, it is this final step of getting back up after getting our butt kicked that we all struggle with. From beginning to end, this book is a learning manual for doing tomorrow better and the lessons are not just for intimate close relationships but for every one we have.
You will stop very often while reading this book because you will read a set of words which will hit you like rock. You’ll read the sentence again to ensure you didn’t read it wrong. You will read things that you’ve only said to yourself. It’s as if she (Brené Brown) has peeked into your head. And then, each time, she’ll let you off the hook because as her research shows, we all secretly think those things.
In short, Rising Strong methodically shows us how to withstand the worst and cultivate resilience, recognize it in others and literally be a better person in and as a result of the process. What can I say? Owning your story will literally release buckets of stress from your system, it certainly did mine!
“The irony is that we attempt to disown our difficult stories to appear more whole or more acceptable, but our wholeness – even our wholeheartedness – actually depends on the integration of all of our experience, including the falls.”
“There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fear mongers than those of us who are willing to fall because we have learned how to rise.”
“The conspiracies and confabulations that we tend to makeup in the face of limited data can tear away at the heart of organizations [us] [our relationships].”
As a man, I am expected to be strong, fearless, tough and stoic. Unless I am really angry – then I can show it because I’ll “look like a man”. This social conditioning was revealed early in Brené Brown’s work and hit me square in the chest – leaving me with a reminder in the form of a gnawing need to walk the better path that she describes. I’ll admit that my biggest fear was taking on the responsibility of vulnerability that is strung through all of her books, but is the bulls-eye of Rising Strong.
I am shaken at the core of who I am as a man. I realize that the typical male will look at this book on a shelf, read the title and go for the immediate macho dismissal. Thankfully, I didn’t ignore the opportunity to read it and I am now 10X the man I was before. The concepts shared are the real world kind, but ones that we rarely speak about.
There is an awakening that commenced inside of me from the first moment I recognised one of Dr. Brown’s concepts in my life. Then I recognised another. As this continues to happen, I feel as though my perception of who I am and how I can thrive through adversity, by owning my story daily, is my method for constant improvement.
Today, I live it. At work, at the gym or anywhere I am with my wife. No bravado, no fear of feelings: sad or mad. I am proud to draw from every stumble, fall or crash because I know it’s part of who I am; it is part of my story. This book gave me the clear and deep understanding I needed. While my story may not be as grand as others, because I own it, I get to write it to the end.
I will read Rising Strong repeatedly every year – that’s my promise to myself. The process and understanding contained between the front and back cover paint a picture of the world I want to live in – one where everyone reads, has understood and practices what they have been taught. So, that’s my commitment to my future self; to honor that desire by practicing daily what is contained in this book. I know what a gift being vulnerable is. I know how to embrace it so that I may dare greatly. Now I know how to rise strong should I fall and that working towards helping others so they can also fall and rise again is my future.